Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Goodbye Feast - Հաջոգության Կեֆը


When my school director and friend, Varsik, called me up and asked where I’d like to have my final going away “kef” (Armenian word for feast/party) with the rest of the teachers from the village, I decided I wanted to do it in true Armenian style, outside in the elements. The rest of the school staff that were still in Lehvaz and weren’t in Yerevan or up in the mountains somewhere at their “dacha” (summer home) at the time comprised mainly older to middle-aged women, and so there was a bit of hand-wringing that doing it outside wouldn’t be comfortable, or that the weather would be too cold, etc. I told them I just wanted to do a traditional khorovats, and reminded them that it was still summer – early August to be exact – so the opposite of cold. It took a little bit of convincing, but I didn’t budge on the issue. After all it was my going away party. Anyway, I’m not too big on going away parties, especially for myself, and I figured a nice simple outdoor khorovats would be as painless and unimposing as possible.  

On the day of, we met up at the village center. Some of the usual suspects were there: Ophelia – the school’s elementary Russian teacher; Valentina – Phys-Ed teacher/Master of soviet-style morning exercises; Rita – something like Biology; Yana – upper-level Russian teacher; Lusine –  the school vice director; and Varsik – school director. Also in attendance were Samvel, Ophelia’s husband, and Slavik, who drove some of us there and is also a good friend of mine from the village. The plan was to head to “Nersesi Aghbyur” in the woods just north of the village, and set up in one of the many khorovats spots there. (Aghbyur means “water source” or “spring,” and there is almost always a nearby spring or fountain in places where Armenians like to cook out and relax).  We ran into an unexpected hang-up pretty quick, though, since all of the good outdoor khorovats spots were already occupied once we got to Nersesi Aghbyur. I guess there were a lot of birthdays that day, or son’s being born, or any of the other myriad things Armenians like to cook out for. This was much to my chagrin, since the whole doing it outdoor in the elements thing had been completely my idea, and now we couldn’t find a space. After some discussion, though, I was told that we could go over to “Simoni Aghbyur” instead, which was apparently another khorovats spot nearby. Despite a slight tone of reservation in their voices when they talked about going to Simoni Aghbyur, they seemed pretty sure that it would be free. I couldn’t imagine what could possibly be wrong with it, and was game.

Simoni aghbyur was definitely free when we got there, the chief reason being that it was directly on the premises of a small strip club. Everything clicked in my head pretty fast when I looked into the shabby little building next to us and saw a single stripper pole and a bunch of creepy mirrors inside. I laughed out loud and so did Yana, the Russian teacher, when she saw my reaction. I’d been asked to come here before by men my age in the village plenty of times, but had always turned them down and never knew exactly where it was. But besides the depressing, shabby looking strip joint right next to us, the rest of the grounds were nice. There were woods nearby, and a nice view of the mountains. There was a fire pit to do khorovats, and a nice big table for us to sit around. Plus, it was a weeknight and the club was closed, which was certainly a good thing.

The women got to setting up the table and laying out cakes and coffee, while Samvel, Slavik and I went over to the fire pit and got the fire going to barbeque the vegetables and meat. I had put an American style barbeque rub on the meat (leftover from a care package my mom had sent me a while back) and had also brought some sweet American barbeque sauce to see what my Armenian colleagues would think of it. The rest of the teachers had brought all sorts of homemade goods, from cakes to fresh bread and cheese, to compote. We had the vegetables and meat done in no time, and were soon seated around the table and feasting. Slavik went over to buy a liter of homemade vodka from the proprietor of the strip club, so that we had something to toast with, and also just to give him some business since we were technically using his property. The food was delicious, and they loved the American barbeque sauce. A couple of toasts to me were said right off the bat, which mostly focused on wishing me a very happy future with a BIG family and lots of kids (Armenians love to give toasts like that to people my age, and I think there’s a not so subtle sub-text going on here of “hurry up and get married!”). I toasted back to the school teachers and staff and thanked them for being great friends and counting me among them for two years. I truly was going to miss them.

The homemade stuff that Slavik got turned out to be a bit on the strong side. I was trying to sip it slow after catching a scent of the fumes. Yana, the only female present who was having vodka, refused to have any more after her first sip. Slavik wasn’t really drinking it either. Samvel, on the other hand, was. The old man downed a full glass after each toast, and after only the first two or three started knocking his glass over. This was surprising; if a wizened Armenian man like Samvel is showing signs like that, you know it’s powerful stuff. He then put his arm around me and was mumbling long winded toasts to me that I didn’t fully understand. His wife, Ophelia, started shouting at him, “speak up! He doesn’t understand you.” It was no use. He was not hearing her, and continued to mumble stuff about “my health,” and how I’ve “done good work.” He’d then raise his glass up as if it was time to toast, but then some other thought would come to  him all of a sudden and he would lower it back down and continue his muttering for a while.

A cold, refreshing wind started to pick up and clouds were gathering in the growing dusk when we decided to get going. As usual, the teachers gave me almost all of the leftover food on the table, even though I insisted that I wouldn’t be able to eat all of it in the remaining 24 hours I was in Lehvaz. “You can just bring it on the road with you then,” said Valentina, as she heaved a giant 3 to 4 liter jar of cherry compote at me to go home with. As we were wrapping up the teachers presented me a small faux stone plaque with an Armenian church on it as a going away gift. Cheesy, but I guess it was a nice gesture. I gave all the teachers a big hug and a kiss, they all gave me one more wish of a happy future and a big healthy family, and we headed out. My first and last experience at “Simoni Aghbyur” had been a good one.

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