Saturday, February 16, 2013

Feeling at home - Տանը զգալով



I’ve come to feel very at home lately in this country. It’s a feeling that stems from things like being able to walk into various neighbors’ houses in the village without asking in advance, and wind up having coffee or a meal with them. It’s a feeling that stems from things like knowing how to split a piece of knotted would cleanly without getting the axe stuck (or if I still do have trouble, being able to call a neighbor or one of my students over to fix the problem right away). It’s a feeling that comes from not really worrying about my reputation in this small, tight-knit community anymore, but instead being at ease knowing that the people here know who I am and what I do here and that that’s just fine with the majority of them.

A big part of what makes it easier to live here as a foreigner is how open hearted many Armenians are. Armenians have over and over again amazed with their hospitable nature and genuine desire to treat even the most distant stranger as an honorable guest. What follows is a few accounts of times where I think this point is really exemplified. Instances of random hospitality have happened to me many, many times in this country, but here are a few of the more memorable ones to me.

#1 – The Marshutni Driver – Մարշուտնի Վարորդը

In a Marshutni from Yerevan to Lusakert last winter, on my way to my friend Ben’s house, who lives and teaches in the village of Karashamb, I made quick friends with the very friendly driver of the minibus. Or rather, he made friends with me. I don’t know if I ever had much say in the matter. Over the course of the trip, the middle aged, white-haired driver periodically peered at me from the rear view mirror and, despite the fact that I was seated near the back of the min-bus, seemed to be taking a great deal of notice of me. He started joking with me and asking me about where I was from and what I was doing in his country. Then realizing that I could speak some Armenian, he began getting more and more excited as the hour-long trip went on. Finally as all the passengers were getting off at the last stop in Lusakert, he forbid me to get off with them and instead drove the two of us straight to his house, insisting that I would come to meet his family as a guest and get well fed before I could continue on my way. Some of the most gratifying experiences in this country have stemmed from being open to these chance meetings, when your schedule and whatever plans you may have had are essentially hijacked by strangers who want to get to know you and treat you to their hospitality. In Lusakert, at this man’s house (Suren was his name), we shared some glasses of beer and ate fruit, walnuts, meat, potatoes, and finally coffee while he introduced me to his daughters and wife. He insisted that if I ever came back to Lusakert, I’d have a place to stay and rest whenever I needed. Once I began telling him where I was headed, Suren exclaimed that he was a friend of my friend Ben’s landlord (stuff like this starts to become not surprising here), and called him to find out the exact whereabouts of the place I was going. He then called another friend of his to drive me there. After arriving, Ben’s landlord, who was now in on the orchestration taking place, gave Ben a call to confirm that I had arrived safely. Ben tried to confirm in some broken Armenian, responding “ha, ayo, anpayman,” (yeah, yes, of course), which apparently didn’t satisfy the landlord enough, because he then called me directly (having apparently gotten my number from Suren) to confirm that I had arrived and was safe and warm at Ben’s place. “I wasn’t sure if Ben understood what I was saying,” he said to me. “Did you make it to the house alright?” I said I had. Both phone calls happened within a minute of each other, with Ben and I facing each grinning the whole time.

#2 – Qnarik and Robert – Քնարիկ եվ Ռոբերտ

This last summer, on a hot June afternoon, I was on my way back to Lehvaz after doing a test hike for Border 2 Border. I had camped out in Lichk the night before, the mountain village which was to be one of the first stopping points on the journey. I had made it up there with my heavy pack on, discovered a nice, open, mostly flat clearing by a stream and decided to call it camp for the night. In the gathering dark I made a fire as fast as could with some dead branches, put my tent up, and then relaxed, just me and the fire, for how long I’m not sure. I don’t know at what point exactly I realized it, but it suddenly dawned on me that I had never camped out—in the wilderness of America or Armenia— completely by myself. I got tired, started to neglect my friend the fire, and decided to call it a night. I fell asleep as soon as a brief paranoia about bears or wolves or some other beast native only to Armenia passed over me, and slept soundly until waking up suddenly and having to go to the bathroom sometime around midnight. As I unzipped my tent, I was stunned to find the clearing I was camping in fully lit up as if by a massive street light. The clearing I was camping in was drenched in bright white light from a full moon that had risen while I was asleep. I could see the clearing around me and its surrounding trees with amazing clarity. I stood and admired, and eventually remembered why I had gotten up in the first place. The next time I woke up, it was early morning and the sun was just starting to rise. I ate cheese and sausage and bread and maybe an apple for breakfast and got on my way. I’ve never been a fan of hiking downward in general, always preferring to go upward when you can see your goal and you have adrenaline going than downward when there’s not really much of a goal except getting back home. Plus your legs are already tired from having gone up. The hike back from my campsite to my village was tiresome, and somewhere near the village of Vartanidzor, just as the day’s peak sunlight was starting to blaze down on me, I decided to sleep under a giant walnut tree not far from the road, but far enough away that I wouldn’t be bothered by passing cars. There wasn’t much thought that went into the decision. I was simply exhausted and it was hot and the tree provided superb shade, so down I plopped and was out in minutes. I woke up in the middle of the afternoon heat, knew that I had to get moving, and started back on my way. Not long after I was back on the road though, I ran into a big-haired Armenian woman with a husky voice who asked if I was the “American boy who teaches English in Lehvaz.” I said “Yeah!” very enthusiastically I’m sure, and she seemed delighted and told me that I had to come over to her house” right now.” Knowing Armenians well, I knew that it would be hard to refuse her even if I decided to put up a fight, so I gave in easily and followed her down to a secluded, fenced in home just of the road.  Turns out she was Qnarik, the school director in the village of Vartanidzor. Her husband Robert, a veterinarian who loved to drink and loved to talk about the greatness of soviet times in Armenia, was seated on the couch when I came in and was also excited to meet me. I was treated to potatoes, meat, matsun (Armenian yogurt), tons of fruit, tea, coffee, homemade vodka, and cucumbers with honey spread on them, which I had never tried before but which Robert was very, very adamant about me trying. They were delicious. I ended up finishing my trek home hours later completely re-energized. I’ve since been invited to their home multiple times for meals, and have visited the school in Vartanidzor and helped Qnarik fill out an application to have a TEFL Peace Corps Volunteer at her school next year. I consider both Qnarik and Robert to be some of my best friends here.  It’s not often that people invite a sweaty backpacker who just took a nap under a walnut tree off the highway and into their home, and then wind up becoming friends with that backpacker and inviting him over again and again, but that type of thing is starting to not seem so strange here anymore. S

#3—Chris’s Neighbors – Քրիսի Հարէվաննէրը

At night, in the dead of winter, just after New Year’s, in Yerevan. My girlfriend and I were on our way to a friend’s apartment who was not in town but had given us a spare key and was letting use the place for the night. It must have been well below freezing outside. On the cold walk to our destination, we were feeling grateful to have the warm apartment to stay in for the night. However, as we finally reached the place and my girlfriend fumbled for the key to the apartment in her purse, she couldn't find it. This, compounded with the frigid cold outside, was sort of a numbing blow to our moods. We wandered for an hour or so in the streets near the apartment, backtracking our steps along the sidewalks and re-entering the shops we had just been in to ask if they had seen the key. They hadn’t, and it didn’t pop up shining under a streetlight on any of the sidewalks either. The realization that the key was gone for good sank in deeper, and eventually we headed back to the apartment just to double check if it hadn’t fallen out somewhere near the door, before calling it quits and finding other accommodations for the night. We didn’t find the key, of course, but as we searched around, the neighbors who lived next door and rented the place to our friend came out and asked what the trouble was. After hearing the story, they invited us in with persistence (we did at least try to say no a couple of times) and soon we caved in and got warm in their house. Before we could fully thaw out, Nor Tari (Armenian New Year) food started coming at faster than our appetites could keep up with. We were treated to blinchik, fruit, cake, layered vegetable and bean bars, lamb, sausages, and cheese along with tea and coffee. I ate pretty shamelessly, because it was delicious and I was hungry, thanking them profusely. They then offered to let us stay at their place for the night, and once again persisted aggressively, but we felt that we’d be overstepping a little too much if we obliged, and eventually headed back out into the cold an hour or so later to go stay at a hostel. The two ladies had warmed us up and put a bright spot on a night that would have otherwise been quite a bleak one. 

Hike up to the lakes - Զբոսանք դեպի լճերը


Karen said that August was the best time to go up to lakes, and that in fact it was the only time to go up and see them safely, since the rest of the year round the area is frozen solid. I’d been wanting to go up and see them ever since he and his uncle, Retik, had told me about them early in the summer, and when some fellow volunteers from the north told me they were coming to visit me in August, I decided it would be great to all go together.

Karen and Retik were pretty thrilled at the prospect of getting to take not just me, but several other Americans up to see this beautiful place, acting as our local guides, and in the weeks leading up to my friends’ arrival we started planning it all out. Both of the men insisted that we’d bring khorovats (Armenian barbeque) supplies, a few horses, a possible tractor and trailer to bring us up, and even a gun. The gun thing never panned out and, neither of them owned a gun to begin with, but  they looked for one pretty much until the last minute before heading up, calling their friends to see if they could borrow one. I was secretly quite okay with the fact that they didn’t end up finding the gun.

“Sometimes…you’re up there in the wild and you run into a wild ram or boar and you have to shoot it and eat right there. It can happen just like that!” is roughly what Karen said to me every time I asked why exactly we would need to bring a gun on this expedition.

Kelsey, Ashley, Trent, and Ben arrived in my village the night before we’d be heading out. We roasted hot dogs in Meghri at my friend Hapet’s house, which is situated near the top of the big hill that the old neighborhood sits on, and which has a great view of the town and of the sheer mountains in Iran right across the border. After our solid, very American meal, we headed back to my place, made sure to get well hydrated for the high-altitude hike tomorrow and got to bed at a decent hour. Karen had also brought goat's milk for us to drink the night before, which he said would give us an extra "boost" for the hike the next day, but which only I ended up drinking a small half-glass of.

We woke up leisurely, had breakfast and a few cups of coffee, and around 10 I called Karen and told him to come over whenever he was ready. I called two taxis to take us from Lehvaz, my village, to Lichk, the mountain village where we’d be setting out from up towards the lakes. We got our hiking packs, tents, trail food, and water all in order, and as soon as Karen arrived we headed down to catch our taxis. 

After the brief, steep climbing taxi ride up to Lichk, we headed to meet Retik, Karen’s uncle, at his house, where it soon became apparent that he and Karen, our guides on this expedition, were not quite as organized as they had seemed when we discussed plans in the week prior. The horses they had promised were apparently hard to come by, and so we were left with only Retik’s small mare and the mare’s daughter to help bring the 7 of us up there. The tractor/ trailer that they had been talking about was being used by the village mayor at the time, and so was not looking like an option either. Karen left to find more horses or ask people in the village to let us borrow some, came back empty handed, and finally we decided to just do it on foot two horses, one of which was still not big enough to put any weight on. We were losing daylight and everyone seemed just fine with hiking on foot anyway, except Ben. On the positive side, we had an massive amount of raw chicken and other food to bring up for a khorovats when we reached our destination.

We loaded the food, grilling skewers, water, and girls packs onto the horse and began making our way up out of the village and up some very steep hills and tall grass toward our destination. The first part of the trip was, unfortunately, one of the hardest , as we weren’t really walking on a path yet and just climbing up some very steep slopes along the river. No more than ten minutes into this, the muscles in our legs were already burning and our lungs already working over-time. I heard Ben call me from behind, and fell back to see what he wanted. Panting heavily and stooped over with his hands on his knees, he told me he wasn’t going to make it.

“I’m not gonna make it man.” He said in between breaths. “Hand me the keys to your place. I’m gonna head back to your village.” 

Despite the fact that he was wearing hot-red “mountaineering sunglasses,” (his terminology) I could see in his face that an absolute verdict had already been reached. There was no convincing him otherwise. I tried to just as a reflex just the same, giving him the typical words of encouragement like “c’mon man you can do this,” but I knew in reality he wasn’t going any farther. I soon was handing him the keys to my place, made sure he’d be alright getting back there, and told him we’d see him the following evening when we returned.

Fortunately, Ben is one of the most adaptable people I’ve ever known and ended up having a great time despite missing the big expedition. After parting ways with us, he apparently headed back towards Lichk, threw up a couple of times by the river, felt quite relieved and happy with his decision, and then went back to Reitk’s house and had a wonderful time schmoozing his wife and grandchildren. He then got a taxi to my village, cooked excellent meals for himself at my house,  met up with some of the children in my village, got invited to go swimming with them, and spent the next 24 hours catching sun, swimming in the river, reading, and doing yoga in my living room. 

I was sad to see him leave so abruptly, and so was Karen, who offered to let Ben ride on the horse for a bit, but I told him it was no use and that he’d be just fine. We headed onward.

The route gradually changed from steep hills and tall grass to a semi forested trail that wound up higher and higher still. The girls, who were showing signs of being tired, began alternating riding the horse for brief stints, which Karen and Retik had been encouraging them to do for some time, but they had refused to do up until now, due to the massive amount of weight that was already on the mare’s back. Feeling tired, and seeing that she didn’t seem to be struggling terribly with the packs and food already on her back, they finally gave in. I was amazed at the strength of the animal and a bit uneasy, since I had previously never seen a horse, or any animal for that matter, carry so much weight at one time.

As we neared the end of the tree line, we decided to take a break and then started gathering wood, as we’d soon be passing the boundary where we could easily find it. Karen, Retik, and I began foraging for whatever we could find. After a good 20 minutes or so, during part of which Karen decided to lay out against a rock and chain smoke, we had managed to collect a nice couple of bundles, and loaded them onto either side of the poor horse, who I was now feeling increasingly sorry for as we trudged along. Now that she had the extra weight on her, the girls decided to give her a break and walk on foot again.

We left the trees behind us and continued to climb through scattered boulders and tall grasses. The sight of golden, swaying tall grass against the severe slopes in the slowly setting sun was truly, truly beautiful. However we started to get anxious for when we’d reach our campsite for the night and could relax. After another 40 minutes or so of hiking through this landscape, it finally appeared. A set of narrow, rocky streams with water cascading down them ran through two large crevices in the mountain face before us. Beyond the one nearest to us was a swath of semi flat land, and what looked like a make-shift stone shelter sitting in the middle of it. Karen and Retik confirmed that this was where we’d be posting up for the night.

Before actually reaching the campsite though, we were unpleasantly surprised by one last obstacle along the way. After crossing the stream before us and beginning our chants of victory, we carelessly began trudging through a patch of very tall, reddish, fleshy looking weed-like plants that now lay in between us and the campsite. There didn’t seem to be any way around them, and they grew densely near the stream we had crossed, so naturally we just started walking right through them. This was a bad idea. As our hands, arms, ankles, and legs brushed against them, we all started to notice an itching and then burning sensation all over every inch of skin that had made contact with them. By the time we realized what was going on, we were already smack in the middle of giant patch of the evil plants, and had no choice but to power through them. It stung. We hollered and cussed at the hellish plants, whose stings lasted several minutes after we had already cleared them and made it safely to the campsite. They had pretty effectively ruined our moment of glory at reaching camp. Karen and Retik, who had fallen behind us a bit, wisely skirted the patch of devil plants and made it to the campsite untroubled.

The rest of the day made it all well, well worth it. We built ourselves a fire. Trent and I went and filled up water from the far stream of pure, ice cold gushing water, after first satisfying our desire to wash our faces and feet and hair in it. We set up our tent and then set about getting dinner ready. We began khorovatsing the massive amount of chicken we had brought, and setting up a makeshift table out of stray planks and some large rocks. On it we set goat cheese, bread, lavash, apples, sausage, fish in a can, corned beef in a can, homemade vodka with small dixie cup glasses, and finally—when it was fire roasted to perfection by Karen—the khorovats. We feasted. Karen, Retik, and even I said a few toasts, pulled down shots, and we all began to feel more and more at eas in our campsite as the last rays of sunlight fell behind the mountains.

Feasting

So high up, the stars came out so numerous and gorgeous that for a while we all together kept quiet and admired. We sat around the fire, and gradually folks started sacking out, until only Trent, myself, and Karen remained awake. We made coffee and conversed in a three way conversation that often involved me as the intermediary, since my Armenian was more fluent than Trent’s, and during which Karen continually referred to Trent not as “Trent,” but as “Charents,” which he claimed was easier for him to say, since it was a revered Armenian poet. Trent didn’t mind, I thought it was hilarious, and anyways regardless of what we thought, Karen continued to call him Charents for that night and the entire next day as well. As it got later, Karen started to get a little more wily, or maybe we all were. Soon Karen was reading Trent’s coffee cup, which he claimed to be quite good at, and proceeded to go into a half hour or so fortune reading session, which I was stuck translating, during which he referred to Trent as a powerful centaur who’s foes know and fear him and hide away at his approach. A proud beast of a man who despite his strength and strong willpower, needed to watch his enemies carefully. They apparently plotted against him when he wasn’t looking. Karen said much, much more than this, some of which I think I was translating correctly and some of which I was sort of re-interpreting on my own just so that I could keep up with Karen.

When the fortune reading diversion finally got tired, the three of us sat at peace and enjoying the sacred night and the day’s accomplishment. We headed to our tents soon after and before I knew it I was fast asleep.
In the morning, I felt surprisingly fresh despite all the homemade I had drank the night before. Retik and Karen were already up, making coffee in a plastic bottle over the fire while at the same time trying not to melt the plastic. It was a difficult looking process that was moderately successful. That is to say, there was coffee made for anyone willing to drink out of a warped plastic bottle. I obliged, not being one to really ever pass on coffee in the morning.

Being as high up and removed from civilization as we were, we were able to leave our tents and other heavy camping gear safely at the site without worry, knowing that no harm would come to it before we came back down later that afternoon from the lake. We ate and began hiking as quickly as possible.

Retik and our faithful horse led the way, and continued to do so for most of the hike that morning. We followed behind, Trent looking a little rough but not complaining and keeping up just fine. The scenery on the way up grew ever more stunning. We were well past the tree line, and the landscape around us consisted of gushing streams. Fields and rocks covered in green moss, grass, and wildflowers. We followed a deep valley upward and I grew more and more excited to reach the top. Finally, Retik pointed to a slope and said that once we got over it, we’d be at our destination. He’d been doing this all morning, but this time it did actually look like a lake might be sitting just over it, and I believed him.

Sure enough, as we bounded up over the very steep hill, a perfect, flat plain lay before us, with a shining blue body of water in front of us, partially obscured by a large rockface and countless other odd-shaped boulders placed at random around the plain. Karen, who had taken the horse on ahead of us to get lunch ready, was already there with hot coals burning in front of him and raw khorovats meat ready to be skewered. Trent and I rushed toward the lake, and told each other that we’d have to go for a swim. As we approached it, I was shocked by the deep, clear blue-green color that the water held. We dipped our feet in, and immediately took back our intentions of swimming. While it felt refreshing, neither of us could keep our foot in for more than a few seconds at a time. It felt colder than if it were a basin filled simply with ice.

The field in front of the lake was truly gorgeous, and a perfect site to relax and feel at peace. Large, smooth boulders were placed intermittently about the flat, almost mossy plain, as if dropped from the heavens at random. Nudged into one of the crevices of the larger boulders was an empty glass bottle that had undoubtedly been used before and had likely contained homemade. Sitting next to it were a couple shot glasses as well. Whoever had drank from it before had apparently wanted others to imbibe from it as well.

Fortunately, we had our own, full bottle of homemade to drink from in celebration, as well as all the chicken khorovats, cheese, lavash, and apples that we could eat. Retik and I were the only ones that had a celebratory toast – even Karen was tapped out – but everyone enjoyed the food and scenery thoroughly. Retik was sort of giddy, and began telling stories from his past and also Armenian anecdotes. I was having one of those moments that often comes with new language acquisition where a long joke is told to me, I don’t laugh, and I can’t tell if it’s because I misunderstood some key punch line or simply because it’s just a bad joke. I should also mention that I'm bad at understanding long jokes in English as it is. I listened to 3 or 4 of these from Retik, while Karen was riding the horse up and down the slopes around us and the rest of the group were laying out for a nap. Retik started telling me about his days working for the copper mine in Agarak, on the Iranian border. He said the work had destroyed his health, that he had been sickly and depressed and worn-out, until he finally quit and moved to the mountain village of Lichk, where he got healthy again. After listening to his stories, I finally laid down under the partial shade of a boulder next to Kelsey. Trent and Ashley had already found spots to lay out in, scattered across the field at random. Karen had retired from the horse riding and lain down as well. And after losing his last remaining listener, Retik followed suit as well. We all passed out, forgetting about time and about the world below us. 


The destination


Karen and I


Long way back down